Life loves throwing curve balls at us. It loves throwing challenges and issues and moments where we question our own values. Well, it’s natural and so are moral dilemmas. They happen throughout each one of our lives. It just depends on how we continue to tackle the issues.
Moral dilemmas are uncomfortable and can harm relationships but they are necessary to help continue to shape each one of our core values. The more you’re thrown into moral dilemmas the more you tend to be prepared for issues. Your core values become more pronounced and tailored to you. You become more comfortable with decisions you make thanks to these uncomfortable circumstances.
Value incongruence can be a more lasting issue. It’s when your behavior is not consistent with your defined core value. Research talks a lot about value incongruence in business. For instance, what happens if you work for a company that has a completely different set of core values than you? Would you like working for them? Probably not. You probably wouldn’t have the same motivation working for them if they didn’t believe in the same things that you do.
Same goes for your personal core values. If you don’t know your core values or you’re not aligning with them, you probably wouldn’t feel motivated in life.
You may feel physically drained, stressed, or consistently have lack of sleep. There’s lack of control at times and irritability. You may try to fix the misalignment with something you can control like how much and what you eat. You may feel anxious and guilty.
Not clearly identifying those values could actually make you start acting the opposite and become more misaligned. You’re no longer blossoming as an individual and you struggle to grow.